Turning the Corner – from Mother Nature to Man’s Genius

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Hello from Day 41 in Little Rock, Arkansas where, honestly, it’s hot as HADES! It’s about 39 degrees centigrade so after a sweltering walk around this cool little city, I am sheltering in the AC back at camp, and thought I’d catch up on our last few escapades since my last blog which left off with Canyonlands on Day 28.

The Presidential Bridge all decked out in red as it’s hot as hell here!

On Day 29, we left beautiful Moab, Utah and travelled about 130 miles, first on 191 South (actually paralleling Canyonlands to the west) and then, at Monticello, picking up 491 East into Colorado.  The drive was gorgeous and a special highlight was seeing Wilson Arch from the truck, as if the Arches were bidding us farewell as we turned the corner of our route’s  southwestern most point and started moving eastward.

Goodbye, Arches!

We arrived in Mesa Verde National Park and set up camp in Morefield, right in the park. It’s interesting how this spot marks a transition from taking in almost purely “Mother Nature’s Beauty” to more “man created” in our trip routing.  Especially as Mesa Verde really does combine those 2 author’s work beautifully.

Cassie chilling out with the cliff dwellings

Founded in 1906, the park was created to preserve to archeological heritage of the Ancestral Puebla people, who lived both atop the mesa and in the cliff dwellings below.  The dwellings were discovered in the 1880’s by local ranchers who camped and picnicked (and plundered)  them until they were protected.  The park has over 4,500 archeological sites, including 600 cliff dwellings, and a bit of a mystery about it as no one really knows why these beautiful dwellings were abandoned by the people who built them, though there are theories.

About 550 AD, some of the peoples of today’s “Four Corners” region (where Colorado, Utah, New Mexico and Arizona meet) moved onto the Mesa Verde and for over 700 years, made their home here.  After building and living in “pit houses” atop the mesa for hundreds of years, around 1200 AD, they moved into villages built into natural sandstone alcoves in the canyon walls.  

Spruce House

The basic construction materials were sandstone blocks, hand shaped without the benefit of metal tools, and mortar mixed from dirt and water.  It’s mind boggling to think that they created these sophisticated buildings with such primitive tools by today’s standards, leveraging the shelter and springs that Mother Nature provided in the natural alcoves.

Tower House

In addition to multi-story towers and storage areas tucked into the “roof” of the alcove, the cliff dwellings include perfectly round underground Kivas with sophisticated roof supports and ventilation shafts for fires.  Each Kiva also features a sipapu, a small round hole in the floor by the fire, to remind them of their origin in the Earth as the Ancestral Pueblo believed they were descended from people who were born of the depths of the Grand Canyon. 

A Kiva

I think one of the curses of modern life is how little we know about our ancestors and how little connections many of us have to the earth – for example, I know some some stories about my grandparents (whom I never even met) and almost nothing about my great-grandparents on either side.  As a society, we seem to value the new with very little regard or respect for the old.  Maybe that’s why we keep repeating the dumb mistakes of prior generations!

Anyhoo, back to Mesa Verde… These were once thriving communities of farmers who grew corn, beans, and squash on the mesa tops and kept turkeys and dogs.  They were hunters, basket makers, potters and traders.  It was a harsh climate to survive though, with scorching summer temperatures and frigid winters.

By 1300 AD, or the span of a few generations, they left these homes and moved away. Why did they leave these elaborate and well constructed villages and migrate south? The archeological record shows that that last quarter of the 1200’s saw wide-spread droughts and crop failures.  Had they exhausted their farm land and depleted the surrounding resources? Was there social upheaval or political problems with neighbouring peoples?  Or were they like so many other pioneers who left all that is known in the hopes of finding a better life in a distant land and had the courage to set out into the unknown?  

Window into the Sun Temple

On our first day here, we did a driving / walking tour so we could bring Cassie – different from other parks, Mesa Verde actually allows dogs on all paved trails so it was great she was able to be with us!  We saw Spruce Tree House, and the Chapin Mesa Museum and then explored the Mesa Top Loop with short hikes to see Pit Houses, Square Tower House, Sun Point View overlooking the Cliff Palace, Fire House, Sunset House and The Sun Temple.  We marvelled at these ancient buildings that have withstood hundreds of years.

The Fire House

On Day 30 in the morning before it got too hot, we hiked up Point Lookout, an elevation of 8,427 feet – it was 2.4 miles and a gain of 400 feet in elevation but, man, did we feel it on those switchbacks as the air really is thin here for us sea-level dwellers.

At the top, our pay off was sweeping views of the San Juan and La Plata Mountains and Mancos Valley.  And of course, a “Small World” connection, too.  We met a lovely German couple and realized that they were camped right next to us at Morefield but we had to climb to the top of a hill to make their acquaintance.

Point Lookout Summit
The Pay Off – View from Point Lookout

That night, after some quality camp hang time with Cassie, we did a ranger led tour of the Cliff Palace, the largest cliff dwelling in North America, at twilight.  What an incredible experience!  We were a small group of about 20 and were the only people in the dwelling.  It was a privilege to walk through these ancient ruins as the sun was setting behind the canyon rim, hauntingly beautiful and sacred-feeling.

Cliff Palace Twilight Tour

Joe, our enthusiastic Ranger, told a great story about the excavation of the site in the 1970’s – they celebrated finishing the project by lighting hundreds of luminaries at dusk as a special treat to all the workers – and he gave us insight into what life would have been like when the builders inhabited the palace.  

Joe, our excellent Ranger guide

As an interesting side note, Joe is well into his 70’s (Rangering is his “retirement job”) and just 10 weeks before he lead our tour, he broke his hip while cycling and had to have a hip replacement.  Now that’s how I want to roll when I’m in my 70’s!  We had to climb down and out again using ladders, just as the original inhabitants would have, and Joe navigated it all just 10 weeks post surgery!

Walking through the Cliff Palace

Cliff Palace has about 150 rooms, 75 open areas and 21 kivas. It was constructed over a span of about 20 years – a Herculean effort when you think that it was built by hand using sandstone blocks, timbers, and dirt and water mortar! Archeologists estimate that about 120 people lived here.  And then they left.  A mystery that will never be fully solved…

Cliff Palace Kivas
Twilight at the Cliff Palace

On Day 31, we had to bid adieu to Mesa Verde but before we left, had an awesome pancake breakfast at the camp cafe – the staff there are clearly dog lovers as they came out and presented Cassie with a take out container FULL of milk bones.  Such treasure – she’s a very lucky girl!

Milkbones for DAYS!

We drove on 160 East through Durango – again, such stunning views of the from the road! – and in Pagosa Springs, took Route 84 to Chama, New Mexico for a one night stop over.

Our drives have been incredibly scenic

On Day 32, we travelled south on Route 84 to Santa Fe, New Mexico and did some urban camping 10 minutes outside the historic town center.  We set up camp and headed downtown to the Plaza 1610 where a mariachi band was playing.  Santa Fe has a great artsy vibe – lots of galleries and art museums – and beautiful churches.

Santa Fe detail

Day 33 was our day to really explore the city as we boarded Cassie at a local doggie day care.  We started with Meow Wolf – and what a place to start!  “The House of Eternal Return” is a 20,000 square foot interactive art space where the ordinary quickly turns into the extraordinary.  Each room of the house has hidden portals that took us mere mortals into parallel universes and brought us back again.  For example, in the ordinary laundry room, there is an extraordinary dryer which slides anyone who enters it’s blue tunnel into the place where all of our socks have disappeared into all these years.  

Mick gets sucked into Where All The Socks Go

There’s a fluorescent forest, glowing dinosaur bones that make music, a pump room where toilet flushes mix with tubular bell pipes in a symphony of swishing sounds, a recreated Hong Kong Street, and a laser harp we could play with our bodies.  It was feast for all senses and a triumph of human creativity!  Can you tell I kinda liked it??

Fluorescent Forest
Playing Dem Bones
Seeing the Extraordinary in the Ordinary

After our Meow Wolf immersion, we were pretty hungry so migrated to the Railroad Depot area for Mexican food at Tomasita’s and that was a feast of our bellies!

Of course I took a picture of my Tamale Plate!

From there, we visited a few of the beautiful churches and our favourite was the Loretto Chapel and it’s marvelous spiral “stairway to heaven” with the most interesting story behind it.  When the church was populated by priests, they accessed the choir loft by ladders as there were no stairs to it.  An order of nuns took over and immodest ladder climbing wasn’t pious or practical any more.  

The problem was, due to the small space of the sanctuary, there simply wasn’t room to build a traditional staircase so the sisters prayed for a solution.  They prayed novenas for nine days straight and, on the ninth day, a mysterious carpenter appeared and answered their call.  The sisters hired him and over a number of months, out of wood with just a few tools, he constructed a marvelous free-standing spiral stairway.  When it was finished, he disappeared again – without presenting the nuns with a bill for his work, not even an invoice for materials.

The Miraculous Stairway

It’s a beautiful sanctuary and a testament to the power of prayer!

After the Loretto Chapel, I had a bit of religious experience myself – leaving Mick to explore the city for a bit on his own, I visited the Georgia  O’Keefe Museum.  Long a fan of her work, wandering through her lush and sensual canvases was a great way to end our day of experiential art.

Bleeding Hearts have always been my spirit flower

This was a day that kept on giving – on our way home, we stumbled across the Santa Fe School Of Cooking and although there were no classes that day, the kind staff member let me into their kitchen for a photo op.  Another work of art!

What a ham! And where is my Gordon??

On Day 34, we travelled from Santa Fe to Tucumcari, New Mexico, an old railroad and Route 66 boomtown, now pretty busted.  In search of Mother Road nostalgia, we visited the town’s volunteer run Route 66 Museum and met some pretty cool locals who are preserving the good times.  It’s sad to see the ruins of this once prosperous town – it was reminiscent of visiting the deserted cliff dwellings in Mesa Verde, you can’t help but think of the dreams that built it and what it must have felt like to walk away from them when fortunes changed.

An Oasis of Route 66 Cool survives on the Arid New Mexico Road

Day 35 found us driving across the Panhandle to Shamrock, Texas, another formerly prime stop on Old Route 66 and home to the iconic U-Drop Inn and Tower Conaco Station.  

Iconic U-Drop Inn and Conaco Station

Built in 1936, it was the only eatery within 100 miles on Route 66 and Elvis once had lunch there – we were honoured to sit in the Elvis Booth for a photo op, knowing our tushes were in contact with vinyl that had once caressed the pelvis of Elvis!

Yes, we sat in Elvis’s booth – foreshadowing Graceland

A fun fact about the restaurant –   The original owner held a contest to name it and 8 year old Jerry Bergen was the winner with “U-Drop Inn”.  His prize?  $5, which was equivalent to a week’s pay for one of their waitresses at the time.

The Conaco was fully restored to it’s original green glory after one misguided owner painted it red, white and blue

We also found the Magnolia, a 1929 gas station, and the Justice of the Peace, both throwbacks to the time when Shamrock, Texas really was rockin’.

Built in 1929 to serve the Mother Road
Not much going on in Shamrock these days…

The volunteer working in the Conaco Station museum tipped us off that the place is particularly pretty at night as it’s original neon has been restored.  At dark, we drove back from camp to check it out and she was right, it was spectacular!

Neon at Night

On our way back to the trailer, we decided to pop by Shindigs, the little bar at our campground.   Our ‘fun detector’ was working well that night! Although the space is not officially open as it is still being renovated by Crystal and John, the owners of the camp who have been bringing this little gem back to life, they were in there having a Karaoke Party.  So of course we had to join them and spent a few hours happily belting out tunes.  Crystal and I sang a saucy duet  version of “These Boots Were Made for Walking”, John smashed “Winchester Cathedral”, I killed “Mr. Brightside”, Crystal nailed a “Black Sabbath” tune, and the four of us ended the night na-na-na-ing our hearts out to “Hey Jude”.  Much fun was had by all that night on Route 66, and we breathed new energy into the old Mother Road.

If you’re ever in Shamrock, stay HERE!

Day 36 was a hop over to Oklahoma City, the Buckle of the Bible Belt so enough said about that and Day 37 brought us to Tulsa, which is actually a very cool little city.  Our first Tulsa Time afternoon was spent at the Philbrook Museum where we took in the gorgeous mansion that now houses a wonderful art collection, with some great “wild women” pieces I could relate to.

Go, Girls!

As special as their art collection was, to us it was the gardens that made this place memorable.  Lush plantings, beautiful statues, and an intricate waterfall ending in a koi pond were highlights.  But all these were eclipsed by one of the coolest things I’ve seen this whole trip – The Slumgullion!

Waterfall cascading through the Philbrook Gardens

Imagine a 1800’s log cabin that ate your grandmother’s depression glass collection and your grandfather’s library and then raided the local garbage dump for every coloured bottle it could find.  Constructed entirely of found and donated materials, this gem shines with every colour of the rainbow.  What a magical place – and again, a monument to the incredible creativity of the human mind and spirit.

Found Glass Windows
Library Fireplace
Slumgullion Ceiling Lights

After the museum, we fetched Cassie and headed out to take in Tulsa’s Art Deco Downtown.  The collection of buildings are a treasure trove of the Art Deco style.  It was a bit surreal though as we were there on the Sunday of the Labor Day weekend – we felt like extras in a bad Zombie Apocalypse movie. It was hot as hell, we were walking through this deserted though beautiful urban landscape, and the only other beings out in the heat were a few homeless folks having a kip on the park benches.

Art Deco Entry Detail

After spending our previous couple of weeks in The High Desert, the humidity of Tulsa was a bit overwhelming but we persevered with the help of the AC in our trailer and the breeze off the Arkansas River.

We had one more day in Tulsa so on Day 38, we got out early and rented “This Machine” bikes on Riverview Drive near The Gathering Place.  Using an app on my phone, we were able to unlock 2 bikes and rent them for only $5 each.  Technology is a beautiful thing…

Horses, the Iron Horse and This Machine in Downtown Tulsa

The bikes rode like mules – heavy, a bit hard to get up hills and not too fast coming down them either – but is was so fun to ride 10m miles up and down Tulsa’s scenic waterfront.

Tulsa Power!

We ended our day by taking Cassie to Woodward Park – again, it was HOT and HUMID and after walking the park and it’s lovely gardens we were sweaty messes.  We solved that problem by going to Baums for the best hot fudge sundae ever.  Ice cream to the rescue!

Melting in Woodward Park Gardens

We’ve come so far in 38 days – we’ve experienced both the majesty of Mother Nature and creative genius of mankind and found they are both soul-food.

Buzz Atom on Tulsa’s stretch of Route 66

Stay tuned for the next installment as we’re going to Graceland, Graceland, Memphis Tennessee (good line for a song, don’t you think?).

Musing on Deposition and Erosion, Mountains and Prairie Dog Hills on Day 18

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Climbing the ladder on The Notch Trail, The Badlands

Hello, Lovelies!  Sorry my entries are so spread out – it’s down to 2 main hurdles:  wifi really does suck in most campgrounds and each day is so filled with experiences I’m finding I need time to process it all and ruminate before writing.

So it’s Day 18 and we’ve arrived in West Yellowstone, Montana and the Epic Adventure stats are as follows:

  • We’ve driven 4,250 km so far – that includes travelling from camp to camp as well as touring around time in our locations
  • We’ve logged a total of 73 hours of drive time, 100% of which has been done by The Mickster who is truly “King of the Road”!
  • Our “State Count” is now up to 8:  Michigan, Ohio, Indiana, Illinois, Iowa, South Dakota, Wyoming and Montana.  
  • If you were to ask me which experience has been my favourite so far, I’d be hard pressed to choose – they are all amazing in their own way, as varied as this beautiful country is!

To pick up where we left off, on Day 10, we drove about 150 miles from Canton, South Dakota to Platte.  We arrived at Snake Creek Recreation area where our site backed right on to the Mighty Missouri River. It was a nice, quiet campground and we enjoyed spending the afternoon looking at the river and the evening looking at the stars.

The Mighty Missouri from Platte, South Dakota

On the 11th day, we drove from Canton to Interior, South Dakota (population 95), gateway to the Badlands National Park.  On the way, we just had to stop at the 1880 Town (especially when we found out that dogs were welcome!) – it was just like you’d picture it, a recreated Western Town at the turn of the century.  But with a twist!  It’s also home to Otis, their resident camel who loves popcorn.  Cassie didn’t quite know what to make of Otis, but Otis was quite nonplussed by her.  

Otis checking out Cassie and vice versa

We also met Cinthy and Jeff, the resident entertainers in the Saloon who are big dog people so Cassie added them to her fan base!

Cinthy and Jeff, awesome entertainers at the 1880 Town Saloon

From there, it was on to camp just outside The Badlands on a site that overlooked the other-worldly rock formations.  On our first day, we drove around the park, stopping to do short walks as it was pretty hot, especially for poor Cassie’s paws.  We visited Yellow Mounds and Robert’s prairie dog town where the residents were charmingly poking their heads out to observe the visitors.

The Yellow Mounds in The Badlands

On Day 12, I watched the sunrise over the Badlands while Mick and Cassie slept in.  Mick and I left Cassie in the air conditioning and stepped out for early morning hiking, walking The Door, The Window and The Notch trails.  And of course, we met fellow Canadians along the way – two who were from Hamilton / Niagara even!  Walking though this, Nature’s Sculpture Garden, was awe inspiring and humbling as we witnessed it’s tangible representation of the passage of time.

Sunrise over The Badlands

The deep canyons, soaring spires and flat table top rocks were all created by 2 basic forces:  deposition and erosion.  The incredibly beautiful landscape we see today has been in the works for 500,000 years and geologists estimate it will be in existence for 500,000 more before it’s totally erased. Each colourful and distinct layer of rock was deposited in turns, starting 75 million of years ago when a shallow islands sea stretched across the Great Plains.

Rock Cathedrals courtesy of Deposition and Erosion in The Badlands

When the Black Hills, 70 miles to the west, started to rise, the sea receded and over the next 30 million years, different waterways flowed and ebbed leaving subsequent yellow, grey and brown layers until, at the end, volcanic ash deposited the last 2.

Hiking The Door Trail in The Badlands

All the while, erosion is having it’s way with the land, chiseling off rock and teasing the fantastic shapes from the earth like a patient and eternal sculptor.

As I reflected on this, it seemed to me a perfect metaphor for life’s experience and, if we are lucky, the honing of our soul that happens as we go through life.  Like the seas and rivers, life delivers experiences to us that leave their marks – some good, some not-so-good.  What we do with those deposits is up to us as, in our own personal version of erosion, we get to choose the layers to keep and what is best let go.  Thus, we create our own towers, canyons and buttes.

Hiking The Window Trail in The Badlands

As we travelled west, this theme of deposits and withdrawals continued.

On Day 13, it was, sadly, time to say goodbye to The Badlands and travel west again to Keystone, South Dakota (home of Mt. Rushmore) and camp at Horsethief Lake in The Black Hills.  Luckily, as we drove along scenic SD Route 44 (ironically going through a town called “Scenic”), the Badlands kept us company for the first hour.

Once we arrived in Rapid City, we could see the majestic Black Hills rising up from the plains.  Covered in deep pine forests and peppered with giant Granite spires, the landscape was a total contrast to the Badlands – Cool, fragrant and verdant.

The Black Hills, South Dakota

On Day 14, we hiked 8 miles round trip from our camp to Mount Rushmore along the Centennial #89 and Blueberry Trails in the Black Elk Wilderness.  At the trail head, we had to fill out a registration form that asked for our destination, date for hike and the Party Leader’s name  so we wrote “Cassie Cassidy” and she totally lived up to her title for the day.  For a dog with 3.5 legs, she hiked like a pro up and over the saddle of the mountain and splashing at every opportunity in the mountain stream that flowed alongside most of our trail.

Party Leader, Cassie Cassidy: Hiking like it was her job
Mick, King of the Road AND King of the Mountain

After hiking for 2 hours without seeing another living soul, we popped out of the woods and WHOOSH, we were in Tourist Town USA with thousands of other people there to see 4 of our founding fathers immortalized in stone.  As awesome as the carving was, to me at least, it can’t hold a candle to the art that Nature produced when she made the Mountains.

Mt. Rushmore – pretty awesome but really can’t compare to Mother Nature’s hand

On Day 15, it was time to trek through the last bit of South Dakota and start working our way across to Buffalo, Wyoming.  We drove on SD 16 and found the High Plains with grassland stretching as far as the eye can see, interrupted only by ranches and more interesting rock formations carved through the eons by earth’s ever changing moods.

We took a slight detour for a picnic at Devil’s Tower, America’s first National Landmark, dedicated in 1906.  Rising 867 feet from the surrounding plains, Devil’s Tower was formed, as best as geologists can tell, by an intrusion or magma pushing through other layers of rock then cooling and hardening harder than the surrounding landscape.  This softer stuff erodes over time and Voila, we have a tower.

What’s your towering strength?

As in life, we have towering strengths of personality, will or intelligence that are formed in the fire of galvanizing experiences – the hutzpah that continues to rise above the tideline and persevere when the weaker matter gives way.

From there, we arrived in Buffalo, Wyoming, a hip and vibrant town nestled in the foothills of the Big Horn Mountains.  Buffalo is home to the Crazy Woman Creek, so I felt right at home.

As seen in Cody, South Dakota

Day 16 found us on SD Route 16, crossing the Big Horn Mountains on our way to Cody, Wyoming.  As we started our ascent, the mountains were shrouded in clouds that lifted as we gained elevation, revealing sweeping vistas of the soaring 10,000+ foot peaks.  Here, instead of seeing geologic lines, the heights were marked by the changes in the forest with birch trees giving way to tall pines further up the mountain sides which were replaced by scrub, bare rock and snow patches at the highest elevations.  We crossed over the Powder River Pass at 9,666 feet and descended to the Big Horn Basin, stopping for a picnic in Worland’s Pioneer Square park.

Crossing The Big Horn Mountains
Descending into The Big Horn Basin

The people who tamed this land must have been made of tough stuff to survive it’s mercurial seasons – persevering like Devil’s Tower and eventually rising from their surroundings.  We got a good sense of their characters when we spent time in Cody, truly a monument to The Wild West.  We had dinner at the Irma, the hotel that Buffalo Bill Cody built and named for his daughter and took in a Rodeo.  Man, those cowboys and girls and their horses are poetry in motion and tough as nails!  Now, we can actually say with authority, “This isn’t my first rodeo!”.

The bar at The Irma Hotel

On Day 17, we left Cody and travelled a short 30 mile hop to Wapiti, WY just outside of the Shoshone National Forest and about 20 miles away from the East Gate of Yellowstone National Park, one of the cornerstones of our trip.

Lunch with a view from our camp in Wapiti, South Dakota

I’m going to stop there as Yellowstone is going to need it’s very own post.  It’s vast, it’s varied and it’s like nothing I’ve ever experienced before.  We have three days here so stay tuned for more on our YNP Adventures!

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The Imposter Unmasked: The Powah of Sistahs

All my adult life, in my heart of hearts, I believed I was a fraud.  Not good enough.  Not worthy.  Always afraid of being found out.  Always waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Long before I ever heard of “Imposter Syndrome”, I suffered these paralysis-threatening pangs of self-doubt and crises of self-worth.  It’s nice to have a name for it now.

As I was lying in Shavasana the other night on my yoga mat, I was reflecting / basking / feeling incredibly grateful for the outpouring of love / kudos / affirmation I’ve received over the last few weeks as my retirement approached, and the impact it’s had on my soul. 

It made me think, for a brief second, that perhaps I wasn’t an imposter after all.

My team told me I was a great manager, my clients told me how much they appreciated my dedication to them and their pets, my vendors thanked me for being a good partner.  I’ve received 20+ lovely cards, each filled with healthy dollops of good feels. 

My vet clinic family threw an amazing surprise party for me.  And I’m not easy to surprise- it’s happened exactly twice in my life. Once when Mick proposed to me, in England, at a restaurant, on Christmas Eve, in front of his ENTIRE family (I know, right? Who does that?).

My retirement party was the second time.  I thought I was going to my boss’s house for a nice, quiet dinner. We arrived to find (almost) the whole NOAH Team.  Apparently, the fabulous lunch at the clinic the week before was just an appetizer/ ruse leading up to this, my real party at Chestnut Hill Farm.

I was humbled. I was overwhelmed.  I was so very grateful. I was filled with love for this team that gives so much to each other and the furry charges in their care.  We laughed. We feasted.  Through the magic of Snap Chat, we became dudes and dudes looked like ladies.  We danced. We talked to chickens and cuddled cats. We cried.

It all got me thinking about how meaningful it is to take a moment to praise, to recognize goodness, to celebrate success.  To support our Sistahs.  It costs us nothing, yet, we don’t do it nearly often enough.  I believe it’s an underutilized muscle that could be flexed way more.

I’ve been the recipient of both confidence-inspiring positive feedback and the soul-crushing, imposter-confirming wallop of negativity and criticism.  They are both powerful weapons of mass destruction.   I’ve experienced a toxic “Mean Girl” culture that sent me reeling to therapy for a tune-up.

And, I’ve been so fortunate to have important women in my life who have had an abiding influence on me, the women I drew strength from in the dark times.

The first and most obvious is my saucy minx of a mother, Veronica Farrell Clark Greaney, aka “The Architect of my Insanity”:  mother of 8, grandmother to 10, great-grandmother to 9, and at 97 years old, the only survivor now of her generation.  Only the good die young.

Living a life that’s straddled women-as-homemakers and women-as-breadwinners, Vee’s most often repeated messages to me were “Get a good education, don’t rely on any man to define you.  Be independent. You can do anything you put your mind to.”  Some of her OTHER messages were a little less helpful, but we’ll skip those for now as am focusing on the POSITIVE.

The next were my sisters, Lisa and Laura.  Lisa’s lessons were of self-lessness, generosity and love.  Her penchant for sending the gushiest Hallmark cards she could find is legendary.  She died in my arms and spent her last breaths trying to comfort me.

Laura introduced me to Milton Nascimento and New York City.  She made me chocolate chip waffles for breakfast and taught me good friends are priceless.  She and her husband Lou showed me that marriage can be a partnership of equals.  She has been my rock and unerring moral compass– always encouraging me, but hard on me, too, when she saw I was going astray. She is, and always will be, my hero.

And then there’s my Stanky Sistah’s – Chelle, Diana, Margaret, and PJ.  These be-otches are the reason I can’t run for public office, they have video.  We have been partners-in-crime since our teens and twenties and these smart, creative, HILARIOUS beauties are my tribe.  They’ve taught me the value of sisters we choose, and that art is soul food.

In my professional life, I’ve worked with some outstanding women mentors – trailblazers who’ve carved their success out of this man’s world we live in. 

Linda MacKenzie taught me the power of positive feedback when, after my very first facilitation of a 2-day communication skills training class, she gave me 2 written pages chock-full of positive comments and only 1 “do-differently”.  I’m quite certain there were many more mistakes she could have pointed out to me, and the fact that she didn’t gave me the courage to hone my craft as a trainer and coach. 

Lisa Lisson, now the president of FedEx Canada, who’s story of resilience is an inspiration. 

Karen Holmes, a consummate professional who put the “fun” in sales funnels.

My bad-ass cousin, Dr. Barbara Roberts, who graduated from medical school in the 1960’s and became a cardiologist when doctoring was a boys-club.  Always a voice for women’s rights and now an author, publishing her memoire “The Doctor Broad” this year.

Dr. Sarah Machell, the best vet I have ever worked with, who taught me compassion is the biggest gift we can give any creature.  All the outstanding veterinarians at NOAH who have modeled dedication, patience and how to get through some pretty tough days with grace.

This list could be oh so much longer and in the interest of brevity, I’ll leave it there.  You intelligent, strong, funny women know who you are, and I SEE YOU.

I’ll close by making an appeal to the Sistahs out there: Cheer each other on rather than tear each other down.  Use those emotional muscles to support and encourage and affirm.  Just because someone looks confident on the outside doesn’t mean they feel that way on the inside.  Take it from me, the Original Imposter.